Neediness in teen dating
Society tries to feed us this narrative that as women we're constantly one wrong move away from morphing into a clingy harpy every man hates.
And sure, it's not great to latch on too tightly or try to become serious too soon.
I told her I've more than been there, but that now when a "you're being too needy!
" alarm goes off for me, I mute it and tell my boyfriend what's up.
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But as the relationships progressed from the guy chasing me to more of an equal situation, a nagging doubt would start to edge its way into my happiness.
I didn't enjoy questioning myself for wanting to actually get taken on dates or made someone's girlfriend when it just seemed like the natural progression of things. I trained myself to look at my relationships as though they were my friends: Would I think they were being needy if they did XYZ?But I bought into this message so much that I would worry about sending a text first, or think I had to be totally fine with the guy I was hooking up with taking someone else home in front of me.I would rein in my feelings to be the Cool Girl that Gillian Flynn's so perfectly lambastes men for believing in: "Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined, loving manner and let their men do whatever they want.She wanted to learn how to do laundry, so now she is bringing stuff over to be washed whenever DS does his. He is really starting to resent that he can't hang out with his buddy's or go play in his band or just have some alone time without her feelings being hurt or her calling to check up on him.I have tried to talk to her, but the message isn't getting through.
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