Online dating etiquette after second date
“Let’s say you're five-foot-ten, but you decide you’ll seem hotter if you say you’re six-foot-one,” Robinson says.“It may be a superficial detail, but if/when your date notices you fudged the numbers, she’ll wonder what else you sugarcoated.While many of said online matchmaking entities equate “attraction” with a mathematical equation, Nerve Dating (an off-shoot of the sex/dating/culture site, Nerve.com), has incorporated social media conventions into their platform that allow soulmate searchers to create connections via interactive conversations, rather than simply writing essays, checking off endless lists, and hoping for the best.We’ve tapped Nerve.com’s dating columnist Caitlin Robinson, AKA Miss Information, to offer some tips and tricks to those of you prepping to post your profile.“If you aren’t sure how your profile looks/reads, ask a friend to proof it,” she suggests.
To my surprise, I found myself feeling attracted to him. This innocent exchange of glances made me uncomfortable, but only in a sense that I realized I was no longer a married woman but an available single one. First, I needed to be willing to discuss dating with people who I was close to. He said genuinely that he wanted me to be happy and that he knew Mark would want me to be happy too. I wasn’t sure what she would say and was shocked when she didn’t say anything. Second, I needed to know that I wouldn’t be dating to just fill a void. However I had met Mark online and thought it was a good place to start. It felt a little uncomfortable to be searching for a ‘new’ man after being with one man for ten years.Subtract major points for fuzzy/out of focus/mug shot/creepy head chopped in half, and even more for those that feature dirty laundry in the background, or ex-girlfriends not so cleverly cropped out of the frame.Even taking all the aforementioned steps, Robinson notes that capturing the cute, pithy individual you are can be a daunting prospect.[pagebreak] Miss Information tells us it can be truly mindboggling what red flags people slip into their profiles. Any hint of sad trombone will send quality dates running.” Give a critical eye to the potential profile shots, and think about the message they’re sending.“If you’re just getting over a bad break-up, or you’re feeling really cynical about your ability to find a good woman, or you’re in a depressed place in general, keep all of those feelings out of your profile,” she cautions. These pix dictate how potential dates view you, so be proactive and decide what image you want to project.
If the Internet is good for anything—and, actually, it’s good for lots of things—it’s good for finding a needle in a haystack.