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In fact, talk to virtually any single woman over 40 in Southwest Florida and you’ll hear a similar story: multiple women for every man, unresponsive online matches, a shallow dating pool, and, of the relatively few dateable men around, poor manners and an understanding they are a hot commodity.“They feel like they don’t really need to put any work in,” says Catherine Clarkson*, a 58-year-old divorcée who’s lived in Naples since 2010.Which explains a date Marie Schantz* had a few years ago.She met a charming, good-looking man at a speed-dating event.“They don’t want to buy someone another house, another car.” “The people they’re meeting are not serious about a relationship,” L’Heureux says.“There are a lot of players out there that are not serious—are not relationship material.” And then there’s the elephant in the room: Many single men are looking for younger women.In fact, it’s L’Heureux’s job to find her clients just the right match painlessly and without all the drama. For her art, Simmons has had some luck with Selective Search and Millionaire Match.com, another matchmaking service, and though neither connected her with the man of her dreams, they did match her with suitable men she was interested in. “I’m actively dating—but I’m not searching,” Ottenstein says. You’ve got to tell people because a lot of times people don’t know. I’m someone who’s focused and goes for the brass ring.“I do encourage women to get involved with some of these more upscale dating services,” Simmons says. A lot of times people will assume that I’m too busy, but I’d love to meet that special someone.” But not just anybody. But I think a lot of men in Southwest Florida don’t know what they want. I think Southwest Florida has become a place where people come to heal,” Ottenstein says.
For some, if guys don’t have the wherewithal, there’s a serious hesitation to even bother. “Some of these men have split their fortunes—sometimes multiple times,” Simmons says with an understanding tone.
never be another man in my life,” says Paulette Fischer*, a 73-year-old Chicago transplant who now calls Sanibel home. I know I adore Southern men.” But her story isn’t an anomaly.
“Let’s just say the singles scene seems to suck for ladies my age, as we women are 4-to-1 to men,” says Michele Eddy, with a laugh. Maybe I should be matching people geographically first.
(Insert gasp here.) “Age is a challenge, and I don’t know why,” Simmons says. Are they broken from former relationships and think that if they go younger they’re going to have better success? When you’ve been married for 30 years, that happens.
I hear that from a lot of men: ‘My wife didn’t want to.’ Whether that was go here, play golf, go boating, travel, whatever.” But while the mystery of why men would be interested in younger women has some perplexed, others, such as the matchmaker L’Heureux, recognize there are still some good ones out there.
The man got a bit awkward but kept the date going, but the woman never left them.